…when red frogs were 5 cents and you could get milkshakes in silver cups. How good were those days?
Change. Love it or hate it, it’s inevitable. So why do we resist it? I mean logically, resisting something that is inevitable seems futile. A waste of energy. Yet we still choose to swim upstream, knowing full well that the current will carry us back with it anyway.
Not surprisingly, I am not the first to ponder this idea of change. Good old Heraclitus, a Greek philosopher (535BC-475BC), was known for his musings on change as a fundamental element to the universe. He taught us “Nothing endures but change”, often translated to “The only constant is change”.
I put forward this: perhaps we resist change because of the simple notion of fear. (Take note I am reading Gabrielle Bernstein at the moment, so I may be slightly primed toward this concept. She wins the Guinness book of records for the number of times “fear” is mentioned in one book.) We are fearful. Fearful of change. Not change itself, but what we perceive it to bring. Change brings gain, loss, promotion, demotion, new relationships begin, old relationships end…
It seems like an awfully big gamble of positive against negative. Throw in a dash of self-doubt there and the odds seem to be out of your favour. So you think to yourself, “No thanks, I’d rather just stay where I am.” Scared things will turn out worse than they are now.
Added to this, modern society places so much value on youth that we are hideously scared of growing old. Fearful of losing value. We would rather stick needles in our face (literally) than develop (god forbid) a wrinkle.
Case in point: every Wednesday, I spend time with Bronson. Bronson is 28 years old, but if you ask him how old he is he will tell you 25. You see on his 25th birthday he decided that was old enough and cancelled any more birthdays. Bronson is intellectually disabled, which also affects him socially. Yet he consciously has decided that growing old (i.e. change) does not serve him, purely by observation.
So where does that leave us? I have no answers for you, however one piece of advice I can pass on stems from thousands of years of yogic tradition. It is simply: to live for the moment. If you are living in the moment, then change becomes irrelevant. For change to occur, there must be a past and a future. Living in the now decreases that attachment to a particular moment in time, hence no internal battle.
Acceptance. Hmm now doesn’t that feel better?
Some of you may become annoyed and think I am asking you to become apathetic. To this, let me say no. I am giving you permission to accept what is out of your control (i.e. the prospect of change), and the motivation to CHANGE what is within your control (i.e. your MIND).
In other words: there’s no chance red frogs are going back to 5 cents, so get the fuck over it.